I haven’t seen a single trans person deny that anti-abortion laws are often rooted in misogyny. I really haven’t. We’re genuinely not asking you to ignore this. However, when you’re talking about these things, when you say things like ‘this harms women’ or ‘this is bad for women’ or post anything with a picture of a uterus or a vuvla cupcake or whatever and talk about women women women, you’re being a cissexist asshole. You’re telling me that either I’m a woman because of my uterus or I’m just not important. You’re telling my DMAB trans siblings that they aren’t women because they don’t have these parts. You’re telling me my personal experiences with abortion that had a strong relation to my transness aren’t important, that the work I’ve done for the pro-choice movement is meaningless. Above all, you’re telling me that because the lifers see me as a woman because of my genitals, you will too.
Because I’ve seen that excuse. And do you know how much that fucking hurts? Do you know how much it hurts to know that the assholes trying to take away the little control you’re allowed over your body misgender you, but those trying to stop that do the same thing? And excuse me while I ignore the cis women’s tears here but when you talk about reproductive rights you talk about abortions. Maybe even IVF for cis women. You talk about how important it is that women have abortion rights and if men could get pregnant this wouldn’t be an issue and all the rest of it and you never mention that men DO get pregnant, you never mention that a lot of countries demand we are sterilized before we are legally recognized as our gender.
What about our fucking rights, eh? What about my reproductive rights? What about my right to bodily autonomy, my right to have hormones and surgery without some cis gatekeeper telling me I’m just not trans enough because I still wear skirts? What about our rights to be recognized as our ACTUAL FUCKING GENDERS without being lumped under ‘women’ because you people find it too hard to include us at all. Actually, I don’t think you even find it hard. I think cis feminists seem to find it harrowing and painful to even consider including us.
You talk about how women are marginalized because vaginas are seen as bad things and you never mention how your own communities marginalize women without vaginas. You worship at the altar of the vulva and talk about how important periods are to shared womanhood or whatever else and leave trans women at the sidelines, while telling DFAB trans folk that they’re only trans because the patriarchy made them hate their ‘womanhood’.
You lionize the vilest anti-trans second-wavers, you stick up for Michigan Womyn’s Music Festival, you talk about lesbian sex like it can only ever include vaginas, you tell me I should feel shared womanhood with you because I was born with a set of organs I didn’t even want…
No, fuck you, cis feminism. Fuck you. You are a movement of primarily cissexist assholes. I am unfollowing more and more of you every day because of how many of you I see sticking up for cissexism or talking about how mean us trans folk are for daring to ask for more inclusive language. I see you crying cis tears at ‘die cis scum’, I see you bullying my trans siblings out of activism, I see you sticking up for well-known cissexists every day and I want nothing more to do with any of you.
We Found Love in a C.U.N.T.Y. Place
voguers of all sizes and ages
i might be in a little bit of tears
just a little
oh, the children!!! #heartstops
this video is everything.
FOR THE GODS!
lord those death falls! I can’t even
That was a runway wig snatch
Slate & WashingtonPost.com Weekly’s Emily Yoffe is on hand to slut shame you about your date rape:
Q. Friend Has Revised One-Night Stand Story:A friend recently called me and said she had a one-night stand after drinking too much. She was beating herself up over drinking too much and going home with a guy she met at a bar. I reassured her that everyone makes mistakes and didn’t think much more of the account. However, since then, she has told many people that she was a victim of date-rape—that the guy must have put something into her drink . She spoke to a rape crisis line, and they said even if she was drunk, she couldn’t have given consent so she was a victim of rape. She now wants to press charges—she has the guy’s business card. I have seen her very intoxicated on previous occasions, to the point she doesn’t remember anything the next day. I’m not sure on what my response should be at this point. Pretend she never told me the original story?
A. Dear Prudie: Trying to ruin someone else’s life is a poor way to address one’s alcohol and self-control problems. Since her first version of the story is that she was ashamed of her behavior, and since you have seen her knee-walking drunk on other occasions, it sounds as if she wants to punish the guy at the bar for her own poor choices. Yes, I agree that men should not have sex with drunk women they don’t know. But I think cases like the one you are describing here—in the absence of any evidence she was drugged—where someone voluntarily goes home with a stranger in order to have a sexual encounter, makes it that much harder for women who are assaulted to bring charges. Talk to your friend. Tell her that she needs to think very long and hard about filing a criminal complaint against this guy if there’s any way her behavior could be construed to be consensual. Say you understand her shame, but you’re concerned about her drinking, and if she addresses that, she won’t find herself in such painful situations.
If you ever needed a classic example of ways rape culture is insidious, here you go. This has stopped being about the victim, who was date raped (and is dealing with the shame socialized in that situation) and become about how her actions in trying to get justice, trying to deal, confiding in her friend, become about the rapist. Suddenly, it’s the rapist’s reputation you have to think about, it’s their life that matters, their peace of mind. Add to that, the victim’s behavior is somehow a justifiable part of her possibly have being raped? As if her drinking is an automatic signal putting out “YES PLEASE RAPE ME!”.
Here’s the bottom line. No matter the situation, there is no justification or excuse for rape. A rape is a rape. There is no better or worse rape. There is rape. And it must be stopped or prosecuted when it happens. More than that, how about we teach DON’T RAPE instead of what this kind of advice puts out.
Slut shaming, victim blaming.
I see what you did there Prudie.
What Girls Think About During Sex
oh gosh. this makes me a lil sad. makes you wonder…who are you having sex for? and why? i recall being there.
these days, only thing i think about when im fucking is cumming. call me strange. :/
What ___ Think About during HORRIBLE Sex… there is very little time to think during fanfuckingtastic sex because you’re too busy having your mind blown!!!
this vid is just… if you are thinking all these things you need to hop off the ride… red card that ass and ask him/her to leave.
These aren’t even happy thoughts!!! *face palm*
the bolded = trufes.
If sex is that bad… ummm, someone’s just not that into it and the fucking situation needs some fucking re-evaluation.
You see my puns? I see my puns? Awesome fucking puns, no?